WEB SITES OF INTEREST
To be safe, it is probably best to consider all links to be NSFW.
In a very ironic way, the first site I recommend is one that says it is probably not a good idea to get your sexual information from books or on line. In an article at the Kinsey Confidential site, Adam Fisher: Ph.D refers to a recient workshop by Barry McCarthy (I know, too many links and they all will take you to the same places) where he says, “the advice you’ll find in popular sex self-help literature is more intimidating than empowering, and most of the information out there (including the Internet!) is not trustworthy.” So, I begin with caveat emptor!
The next comes from a couple whose talks and discussions have brought me continuous inspiration. Master Obsidian and slave namaste offer a blog, advice column, and are now branching out into offering some of their talks on video at quite reasonable prices. They are an excellent example of Dominance and submission within a context of mutual respect and value.
Tiny Nibbles, Violet Blue’s blog. A site of infinate resource and humorus comentary. Most importantly it has a wide list of recommended sites itself.
Savage Love, Dan Savage’s Blog. Highly opinionated commentator on sexual situations. Sort of an Ann Landers with a bite. His opinion may not be your opinion, but he is usually right on target.
For the literati among us. “Founded in 1998, Clean Sheets is a weekly magazine devoted to encouraging and publishing quality erotic fiction, poetry, and art, providing honest information and thoughtful commentary on sexuality, and fostering an ongoing discussion of sexuality in the lives of individuals and in a global society.”
CPS (Coalition for Positive Sexuality) This is a site aimed particularly for teens with accurate information both in English and Spanish. Some problems with the site (“What if I’m Gay?” just takes you to the glossary, and the search is just a google search not a search of their site). But in general it emphasizes education and self respect.
Polyamory: Dos and Don’ts for Polyamorous Relationships. Polyamory is a very broad subject with many differing definitions, and I believe strongly that any “Dos and Don’ts” are to be defined by YOU, not any authority who says they know. (Advise, not Direct, but they seem to understand that.) But this is a broad discussion and a good place to start your research.
Exploring Intimacy is Dr. Ruth Neustifter’s Blog (Dr. Ruthie) and I have a very difficult time not running a bit with the name “Neustifter”. She is a highly educated woman, though at times her site seems aimed particularly at reviews of toys.
This page is a collection of Sociological studies showing a lack of psychopathology among Sadomasochistic practitioners.
There exists an international community of people whose interests exclusively surround spanking. This site emphasizes some people’s need for being spanked with an emphasis on therapy through corporal means. I need to express my strong opinion, however, that BDSM practices, particularly Sadomasochistic practices are NOT a substitute for professional therapeutic care.
The Sexperts’ Lounge, a series of articles by various authors but primarially “Mistress Maxxters” on a variety of subjects. Particularly useful is a series on “Sex for Noobs”.
Cherry TV is moving along again now. It is a relaxed and accepting site aimed primarily at women. A good resource.
Sexix: What you want it to be. A wide ranging site with articles informative and humorous. I first got to it through an informative article by my friend Midori. (There seems to be an issue with the link, the site is located at www.edenfantasys.com/sexis/sex/)
Jay Wiseman’s (linked below) argument against Breath Play, a Meticulously researched and scholarly article. A Must read.
BOOKS and AUTHORS of INTEREST (most of my links are to Amazon because it is easy for me. It is NOT a specific recommendation to do your shopping through that vendor.) These books are meant to inform but I repeat my mantra, “There are no rule books“. Many books will say, this is the way, but there is no way but your way.
Discipline: Adding Rules and Discipline to your BDSM Relationship by Lily Lloyd.